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I am not sure I have a clue what real recovery is,,, but I think I have found the right place to explore getting well. Honesty seems to be key. Facing the fact that I have ED and to realize that ED is not me. I realize how ED runs my life, rules my every move, tells me what to do, how to act, to feel, to not feel. I am divorcing ED. I filled for divorce today. ED = eating disorder.
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Gaylux2002-Yes, honesty is important to address what is underneath the eating disorder. I am so glad that you are entering the road to becoming who you are meant to be and finding yourself underneath ED! There will be challenges along the way, yet you will grow immensely and feel peace as you heal from your "divorce". Keep reaching out, wishing you strength, and I am excited for the day that you will be defining real recovery!
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I thought I was recovered because I was no longer throwing up and I was no longer starving myself however I still struggled with body image issues and excessive exercising. I had my daughter and a few months later started counseling to try and overcome my issues so that I didn't pass them on to her. During this time I kicked my husband out of the house and filed for divorce. It wasn't until going through that that I realized just how much I still struggle. I'm working very hard twice a week in counseling and in the future my vision of recovery is simply being confident in myself and liking me for me for who I am on the inside.
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Everyone has their ups and downs, and it's important to realize that we can't always control what happens to us, but we can control how we react to it. Stay Positive!
I love that.. I needed to see/read this it made me feel better/ more in control already
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Recovery requires self acceptance, support and motivation to overcome from the fear. Someone has correctly said that "Courage is fear in action."
Last edited by DebaraMitchell (2012-03-12 23:13:12)
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"I don't care if it hurts
I wanna have control
I want a perfect body
I want a perfect soul"
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recovery for me is like reborn. you know , i am totally changed and i can live the different life . and i gain the power again after desperate .
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Recovery from the past is really hard for me because there are wounds that cannot be healed even anyone. Recovery for me is a quite thing to take a long time. It is very obvious that I have a bitter past for the last 10 years.
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the battle that I'm facing
is one within myself
being my worst enemy
fearing death without help
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Recovery starts within yourself. The word recovery can be achieve if you care yourself. For instance if you are sick, you should eat healthy food and take necessary treatments.
Last edited by laptops4college (2012-06-09 00:43:07)
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For me recovery would be being able to feel happy again.
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Well, I think that recovery should start with the right mindset, if you are not convinced of what you are doing you are not going to succeed. A very important point in the mindset is to understand that you only need to keep going on the right way not to get perfect results in very short time. I mean that many people think that it is possible to get fast results like magic or something, this is a dangerous idea, be realistic every thing need effort and time to achieve.
Another important thing is to pay attention to your mind when you are looking at other people. When you a successful person do you feel like a loser? I think you should change this mindset as when you see a successful person you should say I want to learn from him and find out how he succeeded to do this thing or that thing, and when you see a loser you should say I will learn from him his mistakes to avoid them.
After the mindset I think all you have to do is to take action and be patient until you achieve your goal then set another higher goal to achieve or you will go back again.
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I would agree that recovery is different for everyone. One thing that I think is the same for everyone is the fact that they have to make the decision by themselves. They have to decide to change nobody can force them to.
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Recovery for me is being healed to anything that hurts. Completely healed and forget about the hurt. Because tomorrow would be another story.
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Great post. A lot of useful information here. I’m sending it to some friends!
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Wow...thank you to all for sharing your thoughts and stories. So many things and feelings mentioned that I can relate to and feel validation from that I am not alone or crazy. I have been the best I have ever been, but still not what I would say or make a claim to be as .... fully recovered. The self doubting and self sabotage voices and thoughts are the most difficult for me, even after 30 years...
~~ Trust the Process ~~
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I have found that there is a difference between wanting to recover and being willing to recover. For me, so far, recovery has been a lot of hesitancy, fear, and pushing myself beyond what I feel I can handle. It is extremely scary because the eating disorder has been my best friend for the past few years. Albeit extremely abusive, still a huge source of solace for the emotions I feel and cannot cop with. I feel that I almost need to grieve the loss and often times feel so lost that I don't even know where to start. I am determined not to relapse this time and hope I can find the means to stay strong through this journey.
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stacyann,
You brought tears to my eyes. You have accomplished so much and continue to be a productive citizen. Stay strong and steadfast. My 13 year old daughter has ED and we are still in phase II treatment of the Maudsley Approach. It is my fervent hope that she will grow up able to handle frustrations and failures without resorting to ED. Thank you for sharing your story. HOPE never dies. You have a lot to offer to the world. You just made a positive impact on me. Good luck!
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Recovery means different things to different people, depending on what level of sobriety each of us has reached.
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