I'm Shelby, I'm 16, and I'm new to ANAD.
I was emailing the ANAD people about finding some treatment options, and they told me to try the forum as well... so here I am.
I have been a binge eater since I can remember, but that's not the case right now. I've been struggling with eating a normal portion of meals, not wanting to eat at all.
So... I guess I just need support and to make some friends with people who know where i'm coming from?
For other teens who are going through this: Do YOUR parents make you eat a certain amount of food? Ugh... my mom knows I've been struggling and she is like, "You have to eat this much." and it bothers me, but I get that she's worried.
I don't want to eat at all, but I have to because she's constantly watching me... I just eat as little as I can, even when she's not there.
Am I the only one?
"YOU are beautiful, and YOU are worth life." - Demi Lovato
I'm 22 years old. I am anorexic. I also know that how you are eating is not healthy for you. It could harm your body,teeth,and vital organs. I have been struggling with this for 12 years now. I can't make you eat or make you want to live,but i can try to relate to you and try to give you my advice. I know from exprience that what you are doing does not work. I only eat one meal a day,and i still have issues with eating. I wish you the best of luck.
This is going to be a long hard fought battle for you. Your ED wants all your attention. It doesn't want you to have any relationships with anybody. It tells you that it's all that you need. You have to be strong and stand up for what you know is right. Your ED will get inside your heart, than you will start to listen and follow your heart. May I give you this pieace of advice/encouragement.
Jeremiah 17:9 says "The human heart is the most deceitful of all things, and desperately wicked. Who really knows how bad it is?" Most people tend to follow their heart, I know friends with ED who do this and give in. My encouragment to you is not to follow your heart but to LEAD your heart. Lead it in the right direction so that you may do good and fully fulfill God's amazing will for you. So rise up stand strong and lead your heart as you have already taken the first steps by coming to this forum.
Also I encourage you to cut your mother some slack, she is a loving mother who worried and concern about her daughter and this all new to her too. It will take her time to understand were you are coming from. She just loves you.
Thank you so much, both of you. It's just SO hard... sometimes I feel like I can't win at all...
"YOU are beautiful, and YOU are worth life." - Demi Lovato
I know what you mean. Hang in there Shelby! Keep your head up. You're welcome.
Hi Shelby I am 19 years old and I have recovered from my eating disorder for almost 2 years. I started having an eating disorder during high school my parents constantly fought with me about food always telling me that I had to eat finally my mom gave up and I continued missing meals. Finally my mom took me to the doctors and I found out that I had really low amounts of Iron I was really scared I could not believe that I was slowly killing my body so I slowly started to eat. I get that you don't want to eat that much because of fear of gaining weight so start small eat really healthy foods like veggies, fruits, foods with protein like chicken just because your mom wants you to eat more doesn't mean that you have to eat really fatty foods you know what I mean? In other words food doesn't have to be the evil you are your own person and you have a choice eat lots of healthy food that give you lots of energy. Also find a sport that you really like to do I found running I love to run all the time and workout frequently but remember workout because it is good for you it makes your heart healthier and you will feel really good about yourself always remember that it is about wellness not weight. I do understand though that sometimes you just don't want to eat I admit that I sometimes skip meals on purpose but later I get really sick because I haven't had anything in my tummy but lately I have been forcing myself to eat and again I am not eating fatty foods just healthy foods like chicken, veggies, fruits, and lots of water. With my parents they will ask me if I eat and they really don't care what I eat as long as it is a well balanced meal. So yeah just eat healthy foods when I had my eating disorder I ended up being a 17 year old 5 foot 5 inch only weighing in at 90lbs but now I am 19 years old weighing at 117lbs and I look and feel great I don't wear my size zero jeans anymore I am now wearing a healthy 3-5 size of jeans you seriously feel great when food is not always in your mind trying to take over your life. I hope this helps you are more then welcome to ask me more questions I have been through the recovery process its really great that you are reaching out I basically kept to myself when I had my eating disorder because of fear of judgment. You can email me anytime at email@example.com also I just started a support blog the url is http://brookeheart19.tumblr.com/ I would love it if you could post something on their anything you want I really just want my blog to be a place where people are not scared to express their feeling about eating disorders so yeah hope to hear from you soon and I hope that what I said helped I am kind of new to this but excited to listen to others and help
Last edited by brookeheart19 (2012-07-26 19:55:56)
Hey Shelby, My name is Zoe I'm 15 and probably in the exact same position as you, I e-mailed the anad people recently and they told me to come here, i have found it super helpful to be around people with similar situations to me and it been great for me, hope its helpful for you to. If you ever ever need to talk (i probably do to)to someone who understands feel free to email me at firstname.lastname@example.org anytime.